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Thursday, February 25, 2010
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
More Insanity
A few weeks ago, the new guy who replaced FC at work told me I was moody and that he was afraid to ask me questions.
First rule of a new job: don't tell your superior, female or otherwise that they are being moody. WTF is wrong with him? Can you say inappropriate?
Second rule: don't speak! no really, this dude is driving me nuts. Talk, talk, talk all day long. BE QUIET!
Third rule: do your job and when I fix your messes, don't get all mad at me. I'm HELPING him and he gets all
moody and peeved that I fixed his GIANT mistake. Literally it was a giant mistake. 1301 mistakes. Seriously.
And he wonders why I am moody! I'm tired of sweeping up his messes. Get this, last week i was talking 'back'
to my manager and he came over after and he's like "you talking back to (REDACTED) is kind of sexy...." EWWW
EWWW! Wrong on SO many levels!
He's an ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! A few weeks ago, I told him not to change something, (I had already repeatedly told him not to change it) and I had to explain it five times, in five minutes. Then he said "Because I KIND OF like you, I won't change it!" No, FU$%ER, you'll do as I say because I'm your boss not your bitch. I didn't really say that. But I'll bet you dollars to doughnuts (mmm, doughnuts) that if i were a forty year old man this would not happen.
I'm not a forty year old man. I'm not telling you how old I am, but it is significantly younger. More than a decade.
First rule of a new job: don't tell your superior, female or otherwise that they are being moody. WTF is wrong with him? Can you say inappropriate?
Second rule: don't speak! no really, this dude is driving me nuts. Talk, talk, talk all day long. BE QUIET!
Third rule: do your job and when I fix your messes, don't get all mad at me. I'm HELPING him and he gets all
moody and peeved that I fixed his GIANT mistake. Literally it was a giant mistake. 1301 mistakes. Seriously.
And he wonders why I am moody! I'm tired of sweeping up his messes. Get this, last week i was talking 'back'
to my manager and he came over after and he's like "you talking back to (REDACTED) is kind of sexy...." EWWW
EWWW! Wrong on SO many levels!
He's an ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS! A few weeks ago, I told him not to change something, (I had already repeatedly told him not to change it) and I had to explain it five times, in five minutes. Then he said "Because I KIND OF like you, I won't change it!" No, FU$%ER, you'll do as I say because I'm your boss not your bitch. I didn't really say that. But I'll bet you dollars to doughnuts (mmm, doughnuts) that if i were a forty year old man this would not happen.
I'm not a forty year old man. I'm not telling you how old I am, but it is significantly younger. More than a decade.
Touchy-Feely Town
So I promised you a very special post on Touchee. This guy is truly something else. Let's just say he thinks that it is okay to be touchy-feely with EVERYONE.
He's been here just under two months now. From his first day he was what you call touchy-feely. Now, to know me, you know that I am not touchy-feely at all. (Ask my husband... LOL) Touchee put his hand on my thigh on his first day, rubbed my (female) coworker's back and patted my other (male) coworker's arm. It got more wacky from there. He rubbed the other MALE coworker's EAR... Wrong! WRONG on so many levels.
Thankfully he has calmed down a bit on the touching but how, in this day and age, did he get to be his age (which is significantly older than me*) and not be told that the touchy feely thing is not okay?! He told us that he has a lot of gay friends. Yeah so? That makes it okay? I have gay friends too. They do not touch me like that. Ever.
But wait, there's more. Stay tuned for a very special offer!
*significantly is a lot older than me and he's my assistant. Um, yeah. Awkward.
He's been here just under two months now. From his first day he was what you call touchy-feely. Now, to know me, you know that I am not touchy-feely at all. (Ask my husband... LOL) Touchee put his hand on my thigh on his first day, rubbed my (female) coworker's back and patted my other (male) coworker's arm. It got more wacky from there. He rubbed the other MALE coworker's EAR... Wrong! WRONG on so many levels.
Thankfully he has calmed down a bit on the touching but how, in this day and age, did he get to be his age (which is significantly older than me*) and not be told that the touchy feely thing is not okay?! He told us that he has a lot of gay friends. Yeah so? That makes it okay? I have gay friends too. They do not touch me like that. Ever.
But wait, there's more. Stay tuned for a very special offer!
*significantly is a lot older than me and he's my assistant. Um, yeah. Awkward.
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Fighting in the office: the full story
As you all know by now, FC and I had no relationship. I don't want to use the word hate, as it is a very strong word, but in this case, it's true.
There is a whole stream of events that had led up to this point of actually fighting (arguing) for the whole office to hear. Basically, I tried to do my best to ignore her. But it became increasingly difficult. One of her favourite tricks was to deny or fight accusations* in front of our bosses. Then I attempted to control the situation and 'make it right'. Well, that lead to arguing. In the office. Everyone could hear us, as we have an open plan office.
There was really nowhere for this to go, as we had tried going outside, to the cafe downstairs and it didn't help. Nothing helped.
It is sad that a grown woman will use passive-aggressive behaviour to create an atmosphere of hostility.
What I have learned from this situation is that there was something else going on besides her obvious hatred of me. She clearly was not happy and chose to take her anger and her frustration out on me in a juvenile fashion. I also realized that allowing her to think that missing deadlines and then screaming at me when I called her out on it was her way of trying to manipulate the situation, along with gossiping about me. It is also important to note that I learned how to be a better manager. I don't put up with any nonsense anymore with the new person. They know exactly where they stand on the hierarchy pole.
My biggest lesson here is that NEVER ever back down when it comes to dealing with someone like this. One day, they will break, and they will leave. She left in December after months of trying to manipulate the situation. In the end, I "won", but it cost me a lot of self confidence which I am just now beginning to get back. Even though, I disliked her so intensely, I do have to thank her for one thing: leaving.
*accusations of: not making deadlines, telling me incorrect things, making mistakes, attitude problems
There is a whole stream of events that had led up to this point of actually fighting (arguing) for the whole office to hear. Basically, I tried to do my best to ignore her. But it became increasingly difficult. One of her favourite tricks was to deny or fight accusations* in front of our bosses. Then I attempted to control the situation and 'make it right'. Well, that lead to arguing. In the office. Everyone could hear us, as we have an open plan office.
There was really nowhere for this to go, as we had tried going outside, to the cafe downstairs and it didn't help. Nothing helped.
It is sad that a grown woman will use passive-aggressive behaviour to create an atmosphere of hostility.
What I have learned from this situation is that there was something else going on besides her obvious hatred of me. She clearly was not happy and chose to take her anger and her frustration out on me in a juvenile fashion. I also realized that allowing her to think that missing deadlines and then screaming at me when I called her out on it was her way of trying to manipulate the situation, along with gossiping about me. It is also important to note that I learned how to be a better manager. I don't put up with any nonsense anymore with the new person. They know exactly where they stand on the hierarchy pole.
My biggest lesson here is that NEVER ever back down when it comes to dealing with someone like this. One day, they will break, and they will leave. She left in December after months of trying to manipulate the situation. In the end, I "won", but it cost me a lot of self confidence which I am just now beginning to get back. Even though, I disliked her so intensely, I do have to thank her for one thing: leaving.
*accusations of: not making deadlines, telling me incorrect things, making mistakes, attitude problems
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Fashion Crimes IS DEEEEEAAAD!
Ok, not dead, but she's gone! Yippee!
Way back when (the beginning of December), she walked out. Yup, just up and left. She took her bad attitude, her awful work ethic and her horrible fashion sense with her and hopped on her donkey and rode into the blistering winter sun. Ok, that's not how it really happened, but that is classified information. If I told the interwebs, I would get in trouble.
Anyway, I've been doing her job and my job which is basically three jobs. Fun times!
I am not ashamed to admit it, I was really happy that she left. Happy enough to do my happy dance! (Does happy dance) It is a big relief to know that she is gone. The whole doing three jobs is really hard though... Hopefully things will settle down soon. It's been three months, so I'm crossing my fingers and toes that something happens soon...
However, (you know the story doesn't end there, it's Miss Adventures!) the person we hired is uh, interesting to say the least. HE is quite the character. And lucky for y'all, he gives me plenty of material to write about. His name will be Touchee. You'll understand why when I begin my postings about him. I have enough material on him already to fill a month's, no wait, two weeks worth of semi-regular posting.
Til next time!
MissAdventures
Way back when (the beginning of December), she walked out. Yup, just up and left. She took her bad attitude, her awful work ethic and her horrible fashion sense with her and hopped on her donkey and rode into the blistering winter sun. Ok, that's not how it really happened, but that is classified information. If I told the interwebs, I would get in trouble.
Anyway, I've been doing her job and my job which is basically three jobs. Fun times!
I am not ashamed to admit it, I was really happy that she left. Happy enough to do my happy dance! (Does happy dance) It is a big relief to know that she is gone. The whole doing three jobs is really hard though... Hopefully things will settle down soon. It's been three months, so I'm crossing my fingers and toes that something happens soon...
However, (you know the story doesn't end there, it's Miss Adventures!) the person we hired is uh, interesting to say the least. HE is quite the character. And lucky for y'all, he gives me plenty of material to write about. His name will be Touchee. You'll understand why when I begin my postings about him. I have enough material on him already to fill a month's, no wait, two weeks worth of semi-regular posting.
Til next time!
MissAdventures
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Miss Adventures is BACK!
Sorry everyone, I was deep-sea diving. For a month. No, I kid. I've been swamped with work and life. But I'm back now and better than ever!
My husband says I should go to Blog Jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200. He's a funny guy. Maybe he wants to write this for me?
My husband says I should go to Blog Jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200. He's a funny guy. Maybe he wants to write this for me?
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Fashion Crimes Round Up
Last week it was slightly warmer in our offices. Now, normally I work in an icebox. I'm naturally a cold-blooded person (no laughing and no comments!) and that makes for some rather chilly days. Everyone else can seem to work like this, but not I. I wear an unnamed promotional item from one of our clients and a sweater wrap and sometimes even a blanket too.
Last week, FC wore a sleeveless top. In air conditioning. No cardigan, shrug or sweater. Here's the kicker though. The top looked like some sort of nightgown. A cream coloured sheer nightgown. EW! EW! EW! It's September. And remember, SHEER NIGHTGOWN=bedroom attire. It's not office attire. Unless your office is... Well, I'm just going to let you finish that sentence in your own mind, dear readers. Demerit points 30
One of her most horrifying outfits was yesterdays. Now, I'm not perfect here. I've been known to wear some things that should have been left in the closet. The point is if I look in the mirror and realize I made a bad choice, I leave it in the closet. I don't wear that outfit again. Monday's was a gem. It was the world's tightest, too-short sweater. You could see her belly. And her muffin top. And her camel toe. Wrong. Klassy with a K. The truly wrong thing is that she wears this outfit A LOT. Evidently she does not own a mirror. Demerit points 20
In advertising, we talk a lot about the whole package. What does it say about a person when what they are selling looks trampy, poorly fit or just plain ugly? It says that they are advertising themselves as being easy or not taking themselves seriously. I didn't go to Catholic school, so I didn't get to wear the kilt or a uniform. But I can see both the point of a uniform and a dress code. This way, what you're advertising is the inside, because the outside is advertising something classy and non-distracting. I honestly believe that a well-dressed person is taken more seriously than a person who is dressed too revealingly or like they rolled out of bed. Would you believe a stock broker who showed up wearing jeans when everyone else was wearing immaculately pressed suits? No, I would head straight for the person who looks dressed nicely. They are advertising the package deal. I don't want my stock broker taking shortcuts with my money, so why would I want someone who clearly took shortcuts with their attire that morning?
However it does depend on the environment. My office is casual. We all (except for FC of course) make an effort to be stylish and APPROPRIATELY dressed. We have to advertise ourselves as being worthy to do business with. If someone walked in the door right now and saw yesterday's outfit on me (would never happen, btw), do you think that they would take me seriously? We do dress up when a big client is coming in. We know how to market ourselves appropriately.
Still to come, fighting in the office...
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